Setting boundaries by letting others know what does and doesn’t work for you is healthy. If they’re still unable to behave in a way that feels good to you, it doesn’t mean they’re bad or wrong. It’s just the best they can or want to do at this point. It’s not your job to change or coerce them into meeting your preferences. It is your job to care for yourself by communicating and taking appropriate action in alignment with your needs. Just make sure to leave out any trace of…

Blame, shame or guilt.

Jarl and Steve