Basing your identity on something you’re against is a trick the ego plays to keep you confused. For instance, the word atheist means not a theist. How can someone be not something that they actually think doesn’t exist? The word non-dual acknowledges duality. There’s the thing and the non-thing. That makes two. Your authentic self doesn’t need something to compare itself to. It’s busy being the witness of it all. When you find yourself caught in a mental tug-of-war resisting what you don’t like and you want to return to sanity, just… 

Let go of the rope.

Jarl and Steve