Nothing satisfies your ego like a good fight. When you’re ‘against’ something, there’s meaning and purpose to your actions. You feel special. When there’s something to push against, it’s easier to define your own beliefs and feel righteous. It also separates your from others, reduces the likelihood of working effectively with the ‘other side’ and saddles you with an identity that will require constant work to uphold. Luckily, there’s a very pleasant alternative. Drop the need to be a somebody and embrace…

Positive collaboration.

Jarl and Steve

Nothing strengthens your egoic sense of identity like a good fight. Being ‘against’ something makes you feel different and special and gives meaning and purpose to your actions. But having rigid positions separates you from others and prevents collaboration. A much healthier alternative is to look for what’s working, what’s right, what you have in common, what lessons you can learn, how you can be of service and how everyone can win. Don’t develop allergies…

Create synergies.

Jarl and Steve