When opposites attract, people seek partners who have strengths that make up for their weaknesses. But this approach to relationships creates codependency, which usually leads to resentment. Depending on someone else to make us feel whole makes the thought of losing them so frightening that it interferes with our ability to be authentic and may induce us to try to manipulate our partner so we don’t ever lose them. We can heal this dysfunction by becoming aware of the ways that we’re dependent, feeling any fear we have around it and accepting ourselves as we truly are…

Already whole.