When someone hurts us, it’s natural for us to want them to make amends. Even if what they did wasn’t intentionally or consciously meant to harm us, we appreciate an acknowledgment that what they did felt harmful and a demonstration that they care enough to let us know. While we aren’t responsible for the way each other feels and we can never be sure how something we do will land on another, resisting the urge to defend ourselves to prove we did nothing wrong rarely helps the situation. Letting them know we care about their feelings is disarming and…

Healing.