Defensiveness comes from a lack of self-acceptance. If someone has an issue about something we accept in ourselves, their judgments won’t sting or stick. However, if we’re constantly blaming and shaming ourselves internally, we’ll often hear the words of others as criticism, even when they’re not, and plummet straight into defense mode. When we notice ourselves going over that edge, we can stop, go within and find in our bodies the sensations that are driving us to protect what we don’t want to face. When we’re ready to acknowledge and feel it…

We heal it.